Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins – book review

I have been curious about the Let Them theory for a while and decided to jump in and read this book. I actually got the audio book read by Mel Robbins herself.

The Blurb

What if the key to happiness, success, and love was as simple as two words?

If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated with where you are, the problem isn’t you. The problem is the power you give to other people. Two simple words—Let Them—will set you free. Free from the opinions, drama, and judgments of others. Free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. The Let Them Theory puts the power to create a life you love back in your hands—and this book will show you exactly how to do it.

In her latest groundbreaking book, The Let Them Theory, Mel Robbins—New York Times bestselling author and one of the world’s most respected experts on motivation, confidence, and mindset—teaches you how to stop wasting energy on what you can’t control and start focusing on what truly matters: YOU. Your happiness. Your goals. Your life.

Using the same no-nonsense, science-backed approach that’s made The Mel Robbins Podcast a global sensation, Robbins explains why The Let Them Theory is already loved by millions and how you can apply it in eight key areas of your life to make the biggest impact. As you listen, you’ll realize how much energy and time you’ve been wasting trying to control the wrong things—at work, in relationships, and in pursuing your goals—and how this is keeping you from the happiness and success you deserve.

Written as an easy-to-understand guide, Robbins shares relatable stories from her own life, highlights key takeaways, relevant research and introduces you to world-renowned experts in psychology, neuroscience, relationships, happiness, and ancient wisdom who champion The Let Them Theory every step of the way.

Learn how to:

• Stop wasting energy on things you can’t control
• Stop comparing yourself to other people
• Break free from fear and self-doubt
• Release the grip of people’s expectations
• Build the best friendships of your life
• Create the love you deserve
• Pursue what truly matters to you with confidence
• Build resilience against everyday stressors and distractions
• Define your own path to success, joy, and fulfillment
  …and so much more.

The Let Them Theory will forever change the way you think about relationships, control, and personal power. Whether you want to advance your career, motivate others to change, take creative risks, find deeper connections, build better habits, start a new chapter, or simply create more happiness in your life and relationships, this book gives you the mindset and tools to unlock your full potential.

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory now and discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words.

My Review of The Let Them Theory

I remember reading the ‘Let Them Poem’ by Cassie Phillips on Facebook a long while ago and thought it was really relevant. I have discovered since reading this book that the American motivation speaker had taken this poem and used it for the basis of her own theory. She does admit to not writing the poem, but doesn’t mention Cassie Phillips as the author. This doesn’t feel right. If you are going to take someone’s work and use it as your own theory you at least need to mention the original author surely?

Anyway, back to the book. I found it really interesting in parts. Especially in the beginning. And I have to admit it has made me think differently.

You might think that just letting people do what they want is letting them take advantage of you, but it’s quite the opposite. You can’t control another person’s thoughts and feelings so why try, just let them be them and let you be you. It’s quite refreshing.

Mel Robbins gets quite personal in her experiences which makes this book hers. The theory itself might have come from a poem that someone else wrote but her theory is not quite the same. It’s just a basis.

The book’s concept is simple and if you don’t practice most of what Mel says already I’d be surprised. I did feel a little bit more inspired to practice a little more assertiveness and there were a couple of things which resonated with me personally.

I’ve actually been finding myself saying ‘let them’ to myself a lot more since reading the book. Mostly in my head.

I like the way that Mel Robbins gives a little re-cap of what you have learned from her at the end of each chapter. It helps to keep things crisp in your mind.

As for Mel Robbins making money from Cassie Phillips poem, I think it’s a tricky one. Yes, I believe that Mel should have credited Cassie for her inspiration, but the poem really is just the inspiration, the phrase coinage is an inspiration. The rest of the work that has gone into the book is Mel’s. I have since heard that Mel Robbins is trying to trademark the ‘Let Them Theory’

This is kind of sad because Cassie Phillips was about to publish her own book and now she has had to delay. Someone else using a similar name to Cassie has also published a book. Sad and messy.

No-one actually owns the idea but it feels like a person with more money and more social impact can control the words.

I think whole murkiness around the book takes a bit away from it.

But wherever you discover the theory of ‘let them’ it does make a lot of sense and can be very helpful.

If you want to read the poem, then please google Cassie Phillips Let Them Poem.

Mel Robbins has never taken credit for Cassie Phillips poem, but did she take her theory without crediting where she truly found it.

Have you read the poem or the book. I’d be interested to know your views?

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